I stepped on the scale and, on impulse, looked down to see the number. I was in for an early pregnancy test, and curious about my baseline. Where were we starting? What did I weigh? I wouldn’t have known otherwise, because I threw the scale away almost a decade ago.
Ten years ago, I stepped on a scale almost every day. It started in high school, when I made a few small dietary changes to try and lose a little bit of weight. It quickly became an obsessive habit — if the number was even slightly higher or lower than the day before, my mood followed suit. That number decided my daily food choices and my demeanor. Forget hunger, satiety, or what I wanted to eat at the age of 17 — I was beholden to my weight, and the value I assigned it. It had to go down. It must continue to go down, I thought. Those were “good” days.
A week or so into my freshman year of college, I unpacked and dusted off the scale.
I stepped on confidently. I watched the numbers roll like a slot machine. I stared at them as they settled, and felt that quick rush of elation. I was so proud of myself. I’m not even trying! I thought. I just walk so much! And eat so much healthier! I assumed.
Later that year, I put the scale away for good.
The number started to scare me a little bit. It kept dropping. I wasn’t sure that was a good thing. I wasn’t sure what happened to my period. I wasn’t sure why I felt so cold all the time. I wasn’t sure why my “healthy” eating habits weren’t keeping me full or satisfied. I was a little tired of counting down the minutes until the dining hall opened for dinner. I was tired, most of the time.
It would be another couple of years before I felt recovered and restored from my eating disorder. But even in the thick of it, I knew I had to stop looking at my weight. I had to stop obsessing over at least ONE thing. I had to at least try to enjoy college, and not look back at food log journals and calorie tallies in notebooks. So the scale was the first thing to get the boot. ADIOS.
For a full decade, I’ve rarely known my weight.
It hasn’t affected my daily life. It hasn’t decided what I wear. It hasn’t decided what I eat. It’s a number that largely goes unknown, save for a few healthcare providers.
No weight—high or low—is a single measure of health.
Weight conjures up so many emotions. Even seemingly harmless examples in random articles about sports nutrition—e.g. “a XYZ-lb woman needs XY amount of calories while training”—can evoke shame, or at the very least, comparison. Our diet-obsessed society damns weight gain, glorifies weight loss, and rarely puts either into context.
In conversations with my nutrition clients, I almost always hear about their weight, and it’s always attached to a descriptor—good or bad, lowest or highest, best or worst, etc. It takes a lot of work for us to detach those categorizations, and to care less about weight but more about things like emotional health, pleasure in food, or enjoyment in exercise. It’s work I’m glad I get to do, but not the work I thought I’d be doing as that college freshman declaring a Nutrition major, obsessed with weight.